Fade To Black

[NikB]

Dave - thanks for checking in with me. Sorry you're in a rough spot right now too! Although you sound strong and like you're in a good spot mentally, so that's great.

[C_K]

(((Donna)))

who would you rather be right now? The LBS, in pain...or the WAS, out of control, confused, torn, judged by others, and still in pain?

Right now being the LBS is just fine , Poor W has trouble sleeping and all sorts of stuff going on in her head .

[C_K]

(((nikki)))

You have a tough sitch but you are going well and I have learnt from your experiences , its me that should thank you.

[C_K]

betteroff

I thank you for looking in , I have replied on your thread as well.

[C_K]

OK update

It must be 2 nights ago that W told me that she was going to take this place and move out.
So what progress has she made , none , zip , nadda , zero.

The first issue is to talk to the Kids surely ? but nothing.

Today being a saturday down under I fixed a problem with W's car , and taught D to play poker , she wouldnt get her money box out though! I told her it was more exciting to play for real but she was not buying into that.

D put on some old home movies later and that was fun , we had take out and watched 2 DVD's so a normal night in the CK house/

We have had no real conversation since the "you should move " of the other night.

W is troubled , she likes to sleep in but was awake early today just lying there with her eyes open.

We will see what tommorrow brings

[Pamar]

C_K,

Sounds like my household, W currently at work so I am looking after S and D, having a long distance A with OP, still in same household (apparently I'm the one that needs to leave).

Still sharing bed and conversing, but no conversation about future (holidays for children don't really count).

I think I'll be like you, distance myself at home, but sound off in here - helps a little.

Keep the positives going and breath each day.

[C_K]

Another days starts

W is off to work which is unusual for a Sunday. No indication yet of making any preparations for her move.
I am tempted to ask but am holding my tounge , will just wait and see for now I guess.

Dave

[C_K]

Some more Journaling

We have had no R talk or seperation talk since the other night. W has added a couple more items to her collection of things to take with her.
Yesterday after W gets back from work I didnt go out of my way to interact with her and had a relaxing evening watching some TV , fell asleep on the couch.
W is busy txt messaging on her phone and guarding it closely, even taking it to the toilet with her. I am thinking as if I could be bothered snooping! Remembering OM is supposed to be in the past , but her actions suggest otherwise.
This morning ( I have a few days off ) W gets up for work and before she leaves comes and gives me a kiss goodbye and a "have a good day".

So the sitch is in limbo again.

W says shes moving out.
W has a place to go.
W has packed some stuff
Place is empty , she can go whenever she wants.
Knows that I will not stop her ,I have validated how she thinks on this matter.

One thing I wonder about is why the A is still a secret? Why not just tell me its back on?

Dave

[SuperDad]

Dave,
Stay detached, it is a life-saver in more ways than one!
SD

[Reincarnated]

She won't say it because she is ashamed. That is also why she is not sleeping.

Try very hard NOT to ask her about the move! Keep status quo as long as you can stand it.

{{{Dave}}}