I cannot answer for anyone but me. It is not a problem for me. And if people left the board for that reason, well that is sad. We all make choices for what is best for us and that is good.
And for what it's worth, I appreciate EVERYONE'S insight on this board. I may not use all the advice given, but I certainly listen and ponder it.
Issue over. Thanks for listening to me too!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
Standing is simple. You are married. End of story. You don't have to do anything. You just have to live.
I love this. And yes, it is a simple concept. We cloud it up with our thoughts, worries, fears, predictions, attempts tp understand what we and perhaps no one else can understand and make sense where there may be none. It can take a while to bounce back from the shock of the Bomb and follow-up actions.
I called people dopes because they were attacking Cinders. Some jack@$$ comes on and treats her like hell and a bunch of sheep followed suit. I am not going to censor my words because someone's feelings might gets hurt. I was told many years ago when I was acting like a jack@$$. My initial reaction was to get pissed, but then I actually told people sticking up for me that the person was right.
You mentioned insight. I have no problem with insight. I have a problem when someone makes up definitions. I will challenge those "made up" definitions. If you are not going to look at things with a critical eye, what's the sense.
This is a great topic. Cinders, I love that post about perspective and perception.
I guess I feel along the same lines as Always: We have to do what is right for our own individual situations. Sage told me once that I shouldn't worry about my H cake-eating because the universe will sort out his diet. She was right. My choices may not be the ones that everyone else would make, and why should they be? I'm the only one who really knows my situation and how to respond to it.
