Called H this morning because I needed to ask him about some legal issues (regarding our permits to stay here). He didn't answer, so I TM'ed him to call me back. He did and started to talk to me about what is going on with the restaurant. We haven't spoken to each other, besides Hi and Bye, for several weeks. Told me that he has to shut his restaurant down by tomorrow. Then started talking about S5 (which he doesn't do often with me), saying how he wants to bring him around with him today - to the restaurant, to a meeting, to buy some games. Without giving him a reason, I told him I'd rather he didn't bring him to the restaurant (assuming OW would be there). He thought about it for a second and said ok (seeming to understand), and I thanked him. Said he might bring him to his meeting and I asked him to keep him out of that as well. H asked if it was because S5 would understand, and I said yes. He then started to tell me how smart S5 is, and I said the same, but couldn't control my emotions and he heard it in my voice and asked me nicely why I was crying. Luckily, his other line rang just then so he had to call me back and by the time he did, I was able to compose myself again. Regarding the legal stuff, I said I just needed some things from him and I could go take care of it this week on my own, but he said that he would go with me.

It just sucks because I haven't broken down in such a long time. Been feeling really emotional the past few days and broke down yesterday after exchanging a few TM's with one of H's (former) best friends (also my best friend's H). His TM said: I'm sorry for how you feel (my name)... you must really miss the old (H's name). I guess it set me off because it's the first time in the past year that someone has realized that. Mostly, it's feeling helpless that there's nothing I can do in H's situation - although it's his own stupidity that got him in to this mess. Also could be because I had movers come to do a run through of the house and get details about the move. Even if I'm ready to go, it's all a bit much to take in at once...

Anyway, after a few good cries and some sleep, I feel better.
Back to being strong...


M: 33
MLC/WAH: 33
M 6 yrs, together 12
2 kids: 5,2
Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S
Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S
Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D