I know that having R talks isn't always the best idea but we were both feeling really awful and needed to clear the air or else the situation was going to deteriorate even more.
For WAS, I think R talk is beneficial if it comes from you. It is DR's suggestion to LBS (I think) that the R talk should be avoided. What H needs to do when you bring it up is to validate your feelings regarding the R, and not justify, get defensive, suggest fixes/repairs, etc. -- hopefully he is doing this. If not, try not to hold it against him. He isn't privy to the info that we all are.
I agree with Nomo that you did great. Draw your boundary lines and make sure he knows how you feel and what is at stake (with things like the Vegas trip, for example -- great job!). He needs to appreciate and respect your need for space, and it sounds like he is getting better at this. Make note of that.
Yeah, sounds like the bike might be about rekindling the past, and take that as a positive attempt from him. Did he know you didn't want him to get it, or did you just avoid acting happy about the idea? If it is the latter, try not to hold it against him later on. He is trying with the tools he has. Give him time and continue reinforcing your needs, boundaries, etc.
Great job with everything and I hope your H works out an IC session with your MC. I think this is a good thing, and once again shows that H really wants to do what he can to get your M back on a healthy track! Try to do what Nomo suggested regarding letting C know about DR prior to meeting with H. This could help a lot!
