Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Hi MoPo,
Thanks for checkin' in. I actually used some of your comments at my IC session today, very helpful, thanks! To respond:

I thanked her and told her she did not have to do that, I could have picked up a wrap at the gym. She did not really answer when I said this (twice since I thought she did not hear me the first time)

Why did you say this?

I was so surprised that my WAW had cooked dinner for just me and at nice one at that, I really wanted to express my gratitude. Really, this kind of freaked me out. Think about how you would feel if you came home on one of your days in the house and your W had taken off and made you dinner, how would you respond? I talked about this with the IC, of the many possible explanations, we agreed that the most obvious one is that she was feeling guilty and tried to assuage her guilt by doing something nice for me.

No real DBing going on directly, just getting a life and seeing where it all takes us.

Why is there real no DBing going on? I know this is conscious on your part, but can you explain why inaction (other than GALing, which is great) is your plan?

1. I am tired of the whole soap opera and just want to get on with my life. She can either follow or not.
2. I want her to have to take some action in ANY direction. I think this is important for her to feel that she has control over HER life and that I am not somehow manipulating her to do something that she does not want to do. (Be with me, be a stay at home mom, sit around and drink wine and eat bon-bons all day ;), WHATEVER!)

As far as the "non-dating" goes, this is appealing as an experiment, just to see if she really gives a damn anymore or not. As much as I would like to know the answer to this, I am very hesitant to go down this path, because it is such a slippery slope. Especially to go out with a hot, smarty-pants babe like Stillme could just me more than I could resist.