Just a thought. I think my W is not feeling very proud of what she did. I think this may be why I can basically do anything I want, go anywhere I want buy anything I want and she says nothing.
I had a new password on my computer and we were having problems with that wireless hookup. She knows more about this stuff than I so she was working on it. So I changed the password back to the original one we had when I trusted her. Anyway when I was at work she tried to fix my lap top. But when she turned it on she saw that it needs a password. She didn’t think of trying the old one. She did not call me or say anything about the password. When I call her when I got home she said she didn’t fix it because she saw I put a pass word on it.
I think she thinks / knows I don’t trust her. I think she is avoiding saying anything about what I am doing because she thinks it may open the door for me to talk about what she has done.
I have already told her I want to put it past us. I want to forget and move on. This was awhile ago but I don’t think she believes me.
I know I need to detach and I have been But I don’t want to shut the door either. I don’t want her to be afraid I will bring up the Affair again. I truly want to just let it go. Part of my 180 was to not keep bringing things up. She knows what she did. I know what she did. That’s it. There is no need at this time to talk about it anymore. Now if it happens again that’s a whole new issue. I know she has not been with the OM for the last 2 mo. She may have talked to him on the phone but there has been no physical contact. Maybe at dinner she may initiate something. Then again maybe at dinner she will tell me it’s over. Who knows?

Part 2 of this post is our anniversary is in two weeks. Part of my goal 2 months ago was to have this settled one way of another by then but I don’t think that is going to happen. But is it ok to get her a really nice watch? Before all of this I was going to buy a nice diamond to replace the small one in her wedding ring but I don’t think that is a good idea now.


So a recap

1. how to detach , give space but leave the door open
2. anniversary present yes or no

Thanks

Husband

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know