NO, no, no....don't be the doormat. Only you can figure that one out. That is the fine line between manhood and doormat. Womanhood and doormat. This is what we ALL need to learn.

My ex told me that I was more of a woman than ow. My best friend told me that ow was a doormat...and she has met her...and that this was what ex wanted...a doormat.

I wouldn't send the letter...she will perceive it as doormat. She knows you well enough to know that you want what's best for her...tell me I'm wrong.