I feel for you. I hope I don't get to where you are, But If I do I know like you I did everything I could. I can't give you any advice but you have all the support I have to give.
Stay strong for your babies. Hopefully this will be a temporary ordeal and your family can be whole again. Remember it's not over ANYTHING can happen. Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know