Ali is really blows that you have to deal with so many emotions assaulting your ability to think clearly right now.
Whatever you do, keep focusing on you. That is all you can control. Listen until your ears bleed, validate and let him talk until he is talked out. You will wonder and worry about his motivation, thoughts and future plans, that is something we all have to work on in the process of truly detaching. The only thing that really works for me is to keep working on me.
W talks to me about ___________. I listen, validate, shutup and walkaway.
But inside??
What is W thinking? I'm going to take the dog for a walk.
What did W mean with that comment? Grab one of the kids, take them outside and shoot hoops.
Why didn't W say she can't do any of the things she really wants to do with her life until she is away from me? Get my mitt and take my D12 and D10 outside to work on throwing and catching.
I can't control her actions. Only to what extent I allow those actions to effect me. My goal is, not very frikkin long. Long enough to recognize it, attach zero emotion to it, then go do something that takes me closer to my personal goals.
