Love is a trick evolution plays on us humans to ensure the continuation of the species - that's all it is.
At first, there is infatuation. It is rooted in pheramones and psychological needs. When this fades, other chemicals and hormones help the couple stay together long enough to ensure children are created and protected until they are old enough to survive.
In by gone days, women often died in childbirth, men died in accidents, life expectancy was much shorter. There wasn't much divorce because your spouse would die soon enough anyway. Then you could remarry.
Marriage is an economic institution that has outlived it's usefullness. In the past, property was passed down by inheritance, and children were often needed to work the farm and take care of aged parents. None of those factors apply today. In the past, women needed men for their strength. That is no longer true. In the more recent past, laws kept women from being economically strong. That has changed. Women no longer need men, except to provide the sperm. That is changing.
Unfortunately, kids still need 2 parents. Evolution is behind and needs to catch up.
Marriage wasn't meant to last. Love is a biological trick.
But, damn it, I want it. I want love. I want to love her and have her love me.
Yeah baby! Let it rip, get it all out.
Now start working on the want part. Do you really want her, the her that is now present in your life, to love you? Think about that in relation to detaching and space. I am.
