With all due respect your priest may have good intentions, however his guide is going to be centered on religious doctrine.

Mainly YOU must deal with why YOU did this. YOU need to seek out a qualified therapist. When YOU are making an effort to do what is necessary to restore your marriage and broken trust, then as a couple can consider couples counseling.

Simply seeking forgivness and having it be granted by a religious member, or having him/her instruct your wife (forgiving you), that is the right thing to do, does not address the issue.

IS 49 W 47 S 21 D 19 S 16
M 24y Together 31y
EA Mar04-May 06
PA Feb06-Jun06 EA May07
Bomb Dec 28 07

Footfalls echo in the memory, down the passage which we did not take, towards the door we never opened Into the rose-garden.
T. S. Eliot