Well i have been dbing for almost 7 months. the last two months i have basically been dark with very little contact.

about 2 weeks ago my wife went to my mothers to give her a belated mothers day gift. my mom said she was so friendly that she found it strange. she even went as far as to invite my mom to her families barbecue. she also invited my brothers wife to go out dancing with her.

while this is going on, i have been in contact with a lawyer to send my wife formal seperation papers so i can continue to invest in real estate and possibly buy another business. after the papers were ready my lawyer said i should contact my wife and give her a heads up about getting the papers.

well i did this wed. morning i emailed my wife and told her i needed to talk to her. ten minutes later she calls me back and emails me and says she has been wanting to talk to me as well. this made me nervous and i feared the worst. well wife called me later in the day and we talked for close to an hour when she was running errands, the conversation was very good and there deff. seemed that my wife's wall had come way down. she seemed to almost be the same person that i had married not the scared girl with the wall 6 inches thick.

well into our conversation she said she had a little time and could stop by if i wanted, i said sure why not. when she got here we have each other a hug and she got very emotional. this is the first in 7 months that she was not afraid to show me that this was hard on her. we talked for a while i got emotional when i started to tell her how hurt i was and she came over hugged me and sat on my lap. we held each other and kissed for about 20 minutes until she had to go to her second job.

after she leaves i get another call from her about 30 minutes later and says they sent her home from work because she couldn't stop crying. she was a mess as she says it. we decided we would go out to dinner. we talked about some of things she had talked to her mom about, she was very open with her thoughts and really seemed to be coming around. very heavy thinking and talking about us and what we should do.

we had a nice dinner and ended the night by going for ice cream.
well the next day i called her and texted her to tell her it was nice seeing her yesterday. she never answered my text to i called and she was busy and was going to call me later but never did.

she has backed off and this is where i stand. is this common? do they scared and back off like this? what should i do? leave her alone or should i try and persue a friendship?

anyone that has been through the possible beginning stages of this please fill me in on what to expect.