Nikki, I don't have much advice other than empathy for you. A bit similar to your situation, my h is recommitted, but cannot let go of OW. We JUST moved far away from where OW is, (he said this is a milestone). I am not sure the amount of contact with OW, he knows I do not like him contacting OW, but he is doing it anyway. I do not know your whole sitch, but in my case, "care" is correct that my h has a "valid" reason to not completely cut off contact. I hate it but I know I am starting to see it from his side and trying my best to wait it out (and praying and hoping, the whole lots). I could have written your post in terms of h's saying sorry and "trying", and how you would say you want him to be happy too. My h and I could have almost the same conversation. Sorry, not much advice here, just empathy. Is h showing progress towards cutting contact with OW? May be you need to give him more time? I am not sure. Or is h still doing a flip flop kind of behavior? OT, I am also interested in listening to your boundary setting idea. Like Nikki, it appears h is trying, but cutting off contact with OW seems to be an impossible task for them. So it appears both Nikki and I are stuck (well, I feel stuck).
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
