You seem to have the right answers. You have put a lot of thought into this. It comes across in the posts. Being the one WAS, you should have a plan of what you want. If not, it just seems like MLC. Do you have some short term goals and long term goals as to what you want to happen? Not that it matters, but it would make it easier for other people to understand where you are. And that it's not MLC. It is something you have thought about and come to grips with.
Most of us on here are quick to blame the WAS with having MLC. Or, they do not understand what they are doing. Or, they are giving up on M because of their on insecurities. I know for me, I would like to understand why it's not worth staying and working on. I need someone who left to try and explain what my WAS may be thinking. i know it is two different situations, but maybe there is a litlle similarity in them that would give me some insight. Because I am not getting from her.
That's a great point. I'm more apt to chalk it up to boredom. Nothing kills a relationship for a woman like boredom. And not having basic emotional needs met (I like to use the love languages, but I'm sure there are other ways to explain it too) leads quickly to boredom. That's why EA's and PA's are so common. Another person just made things interesting again. It's also why we as the LBS's have a chance IF we step up and create real attraction again AND provide the things that keep our spouses feeling loved.
Towanda, I know you feel a bit out of place, but please stick around. Your insights with regards to WAW's is super valuable and hopefully, we can provide you with some insight into your H's behaviors. Win/Win for all of us I hope.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
