Have you determined what it is that your H does not provide for you? I hear you talking about what you don't like and it feels like you're missing quality time (your love language perhaps?)
Let's look at your EA for instance, what did OM give you that H did not? Quality conversation, quality time, he let you get your emotions out and he listened, right?
Your H has gotten boring, he spends his time killing it with meaningless activities, while he should have been spending the time with you, right?
Have you told him that in clear terms? Not in hints and suggestion, but in clear terms that a man would understand. For example, "Honey, the time you spend on the internet could be better spent talking to me, I would really like that. Could we schedule 30 minutes a day to just sit on the couch and talk?"
If he doesn't agree to that, and doesn't do it, well then you have proof he's not too interested in making things better. But if all you've done is make faces at him or made veiled insults at the time he spends on the internet or doing Sudoku, or whatever, he's not getting that and he's not ignoring you, he did not HEAR you.
I know of what I speak because I was your husband for the last 3 years up til 3 months ago. I hope that your leaving hits your H in the head with a brick like my W leaving did to me.
I'm working on getting my W out of being scared - it's a huge challenge, but we're coming along VEEEEERY slowly.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
