Sorry, Zu, gotta agree w/ LFL. One of you is going to have to break the cycle and move on. Yeah, it sucks if it has to be you, but things are just going to keep going like they are and you guys will end up in D court if you don't just hang up the "stuff" and try to press on and work things out.

I realized after H wanted a D that obviously was not what I wanted so I swallowed my pride and 'fessed up to my transgressions in the M and made good on what I had been not doing or doing or whatever to help lead us to where we were. Yeah, he cheated and lied, etc., etc. and it's going to take awhile for me to completely trust him again, but if I want my M to go forward, I need to take the reins & ride w/ it. Bottom line.

You guys keep going in circles and no one is 'giving in' and if someone (and I truly don't think it's going to be your H!!!!) doesn't take the initiative to try to make things better and get past all the sh*t, it's not going to work.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10