Do not pursue W at this point, that's my advice. You need to work on YOU and get to the point where YOU ARE HAPPY WITH YOU and it's not based on your M or your W loving you. You cannot MAKE your W happy. But, if you are happy w/ yourself and YOUR life, your W is more likely to come around. Easier said than done, I know, but it's so true and so important.

Don't even think about female companionship. If you want your W back and your M to get back on track at some point, this is a DO NOT DO issue -- it doesn't matter that your W had or is still having an A, you don't start dating or anything until the D is final if it comes to that -- again my opinion.

If you GAL'ing pushes her away, she was going to be pushed away anyway. You need to get to a point where, whatever she decides to do, you are going to be ok w/ YOU AND YOUR LIFE!!!

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10