Dave-- I agree that you handled the convo very well. And that you didn't by into her anger. I am actually writing down the words that you used the next time H tells me that "it would be better" if I moved out! I have been pretty emphatic about me NOT leaving, so hope it won't come up again.
You know that her head is in a tailspin...my friend keeps pointing out to me--who would you rather be right now? The LBS, in pain...or the WAS, out of control, confused, torn, judged by others, and still in pain?