Early on here, some folks recommended an ebook by David Cunningham on "How to be attractive to the woman you love". There is a lot of interesting stuff in it but it is more for *piecing* rather than starting over. You can google his website.
But in that book several websites on dating were listed. The best is by David DeAngelo who is at doubleyourdating dot com. As the title of his site implies, he covers *techniques* for meeting women. But if you get past that level the deeper stuff he covers and stresses concerns getting your *inner game* in order so you do not come across, as you put it, as "some desperate loner" or some needy wuss. He covers how to overcome fears of dealing with women and also how to interact better with others - both men and women. In short, how to be a better man all around.
And his techniques are worth the read. Some are gaming, but after all courtship is a game of sorts. I pick through the gaming stuff - I read his techniques from the flip side - as reminders of what not to do in dealing with people (like coming across as desparate).
DeAngelo has a free email newsletter you can sign up for. He also sells an ebook and CDs, some of which are quite good (I only got a few). Not cheap but it is helping me to get my mind set to start over and not to repeat the mistakes I made in the past in relationships.
