H, I sure hope your W figures it out and soon. I think a lot of our M problems came from the fact that I, like your W, wasn't necessarily happy & didn't know why. Maybe had a lot of resentment then toward H. We had 3 children in the span of 7 yrs. Our first, I got pregnant w/ immediately after we got married. Put together pregnancies, nursing, no sleep nights, etc. and well, you know. Anyway, I'm glad that I "figured it out" when H finally said the D word and I realized how unhappy I was making HIM!! I'm certainly glad I got a second chance to make our M good. I hope your W sees this before it's too late. She probably wouldn't be happy elsewhere either. She needs to figure out what she can do to make herself happy or see that what she has is good and should be happy w/ what she has and go from there. I realized how very good I actually had it and wasn't ready to lose my H so I've chosen to build on what we have and be happy w/ it. Actually putting some effort into your M makes a huge difference! Also when I was seeing my H as someone I could lose and not "just my H," it made a difference in the way I saw him and my thinking.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
