Rob #8 - Never Losin' Sight

[Rob1231]

Thanks, care and everybody, for following along and posting. I'm doing pretty good today. I went out to poker last night and had a great time (won $65! ) while W sat at home and sulked. Well, one day at a time.

Other stuff - both suggested by W, but that's OK as long as I'm the one acting on it:

Lined up a guy I know just a little bit to go on a 30+ mile bike-ride on Sunday afternoon.

Checking around with lots of people, trying to line up someone to do stuff with on July 4. Not having friends to do stuff with on weekends and holidays is a gripe of W's...

This is a lifetime. Your sitch makes me wonder if H is thinking/feeling the same things as your W. There are never any guarantees...

Interesting. At one point in our R talk the other day, I spoke to W about how I and others I knew at this stage of the game sometimes feel like the whole burden of saving the M lands on us, and that this is very frustrating. I also mentioned that desire for the big "Hollywood Moment" where everything is declared to be all better, and how none of us have gotten that, and how we now realize that's not how it works.

Her response was something like, Maybe those other people's spouses are still feeling the way I'm feeling right now. As you said, SD - no guarantees. But that also doesn't mean we should be giving up! Back in the saddle indeed.