I hung signs around our house, because I was trying to share with him some of what I was reading without "sitting him down".
On our family calendar... Our family deserves a peaceful home.
On our refrigerator... Give your family your BEST SELF!
In our bathroom... What can I do to make my spouse happy today?
On the back of our bedroom door... The best gift we can give to our children is parents who truly LOVE and RESPECT each other-and SHOW IT!
Above our bathroom mirror... No matter what- I am the one in control of my emotions, speech and actions.
The best place for a child is in a home with two parents who make their family the TOP PRIORITY and show love, respect, humility, and compassion.
I also hung a thing I printed off Dr. Phil.com about how to stop fighting in front of your kids. He simply said, "I saw that you hung some signs." I pulled down the "what can I do for my spouse today" when he was out of town, but the others are still up. They are good reminders, I think.
Good reminders, maybe. But also a little much. Try taking it down a notch, kwim? I can tell you are a very passionate person but it may be overwhelming to your H (who also is very passionate obviously). You both seem very similar but it is clashing in terms of maintaining some stability in your M. If he says he is bothered by you discussing the M with friends then why not cut that out? I know you said you rarely do that but I think you may be underestimating that a bit. You appear to be able to reach out to people very easily and use that to decrease some of your anxiety (as opposed to people who hold things in more when they are stressed). I'm not saying that is wrong in general, just that it may be too much now and is clearly causing some problem for the M. Maybe your H feels like you are relying too much on others and not enough on him for your emotional support? This is making him insecure perhaps. LFL
