So even with your decision to leave, your H is still not willing to work on himself? It would seem that if he was dependent upon you as you were him, he would do whatever he could to make it work. What was his reaction to you leaving? Did you expect a reaction from him?
To be fair, I had been crying wolf about leaving for years. So it's understandable that my H never took me seriously and was never motivated to change. But this time it's for real.
One of the issues is his almost pathological level of passivity. He seldom initiates anything in his life. He never fought for custody of his son; he never stands up for himself; he never challenges me or anyone; so, it's not surprising that he's not challenging my leaving. He shows very little emotion about anything.
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Do you plan to file? What is going to be your communication with him now?
I have no immediate plans to file. This separation is such a huge step for me, psychologically, that I need to regain my equilibrium before I make any other significant moves. Plus, there's always that naive hope that my H may show signs of improvement. As I like to say, "there's a lot of baby in that bathwater."
Haven't figured out a concrete plan regarding communication; I'm tossing around the idea of checking in with a phone call once a week or so. But, really, I"m not sure.
