She is past the point of wanting to leave. She wants a divorce and is waiting until she can afford it. She will be 36 on Sunday. The kids are 7 & 5. She has a Masters degree in Social Work so I believe she can get a job. But she is usually never happy in a job for long. She had an affair last year for four months and says she realized that we were incompatible sexually. So as you say your EA lead you to this decision, her PA lead her to this. She says she never enjoyed sex with me and would often cry afterwards. I never knew. As far as her intentions to leave, I believe she is leaving for the right reasons. I had a PA 2 years into the marriage and several EA's over the course of the marriage. I don't think she has a any other motives for leaving except for the fact that she is just fed up with me.
She has issues with her parents also. Especially her mother. Her mother was the caretaker and traditional mom. Always cooking and cleaning and never seeming happy. She wanted to be the opposite. I supported that. My W never cooks or cleans and I supported her in that. I tried to support her in everything she wanted to do.
So even with your decision to leave, your H is still not willing to work on himself? It would seem that if he was dependent upon you as you were him, he would do whatever he could to make it work. What was his reaction to you leaving? Did you expect a reaction from him? Do you plan to file? What is going to be your communication with him now?
You appear to have a plan and I hope you find the happiness you want. Do you still plan on getting counseling for yourself?
I like your slogan. Can't go back. Can't stay still. Guess I gotta move forward. I need to get there. I don't want to move forward because I don't have a plan. I am still trying to hold on to this thing. Fruitless I know, but it's where I am and I don't know when I will be able to move from this spot.
