Fade To Black

[SuperDad]

Dave,
First of all, I think you showed incredible restraint. When W started going down this path, I was much more blunt and said something like "This is my house and I am staying here. You are welcome to stay as well, but not while carrying on an A in front of me and the kids."

Note that she is still here!

So now is the time for W , she has the place , the opportunity and I have paved the way. Will she take it ?

Keep making what you want easy to do and what you don't want MUCH harder to do. This means:

1. Do NOT let it look like it is a mutual decision to separate. This is the first step in assuaging their guilt. If they have to admit to themselves and the world that it is all their decision to destroy the family, it is VERY VERY HARD.

2. Do NOT move out. I repeat do NOT move out. Again, what could make things easier for her.

3. Be the rock. This means, no pursuing but also at the same time being there for the kids and ALWAYS having a PMA around your WAW.

Take Care,
SD