Living with my WAW 3

[SuperDad]

Journaling:
I have decided to just detach from the entire soap opera. I have not spoken about anything with W over the past few days other than small talk and to ask her about her plans for summer vacation with the kids. We are back on to go to Texas for about 4 weeks, with my overseas business trip taking about 2 weeks of it. It will start in 2 or 3 weeks, but still no action on her part. Hmmmm... seems to be consistant there, anything requiring HER to take action does not happen.

A couple of weird things have happened over the past few days which are worth noting.
1. She made ME dinner on Wed. while I was with the kids at karate, even though the kids had already eaten and she decided to eat a PIECE OF CAKE instead of dinner. The meal was very nice and I thanked her and told her she did not have to do that, I could have picked up a wrap at the gym. She did not really answer when I said this (twice since I thought she did not hear me the first time)
2. She has been keeping herself busy with friends/play dates during the days (and also this evening), but is generally very quiet and sullen in the evenings. Not sure if this is directed towards me, or just a general sign of being tired.
3. She has been spending less time on the computer of late. Maybe she is getting her OM time during the day? Or maybe this is fizzling out? Could be related to her lack of a plan for going on vacation???

Anyway, I am totally in the dark as to her plan for a next step. No talk of training/getting a job in FL, no talk of changing her mind about going back to TX. Also, her ticket was for this week to go there for the job she did not take. The last time I spoke to her about changing the ticket, she gave me the "I'm a big girl and can take care of myself" talk, so I did not bring it up again.

Not sure what to make of all this, but I am just living my life and letting her do the same. No real DBing going on directly, just getting a life and seeing where it all takes us.

After reading Stillme's ruminations on her sitch, I am also wondering if I should not start the "non-dating" to see how she reacts. I definitely have felt the lack of RESPECT for a long time and realize that I should not have let it go, but rather let her know how unacceptable it was and DEMANDED the respect that I deserve. I see now that this was the begining of the end when I did not stand up for myself.

Otherwise, everything is on even keel (for now).

Ciao Belli,
SD