LD&N - you might want to check out my thread (Madonna/Whore Complex) - sounds like your H might have a form of it

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)