I think you are right , I have given her what she was wanting and it has not helped her pain.
Thanks Nomopo for the support.
Having had time to think about this W realy doesn't want to go but has painted herself into a corner so a last ditch effort was to see if she could get me to go so. Now if I was unhappy and saw her as the source of that unhappyness I may have bought into that. But I am not unhappy any more. I have learned through this process that happyness comes from within. Right now she is unhappy and has seen me as the cause so she wants to get rid of me so she can be happy. What she has not realised is that I am so far out of her life now I cant realy have a lot of influence on how she feels. OM will give her temporary respite but it dosn't last.
I have taken next week off work as its school holidays and it will be the perfect opportunity for her to move out and set up her apartment. W has the following week off so she can have D for that week with her and from there work together with whats best for D. The Boys will stay with me as they do thier own thing these days anyway.
So now is the time for W , she has the place , the opportunity and I have paved the way. Will she take it ?
