Divorce is upon me and to be quite honest, when I finally accepted it, the world became a better place for me. I have been so happy that people barely recognize me.
My last year has been hell.
There is a time to just let it go. I was told by many friends that it would hit me eventually and I would know when it did. I know now.
People change. You can't hold a person to what they were before. That means that if they loved you before but now they don't, you have no choice but to accept it. To do anything else is unfair to them and yourself.
If it is over, it's over. Face it and you'll be much happier. I wouldn't have believed it myself a couple of months ago, but believe me, it's true. My gut no longer hurts, I am happy again, I smile again and I am reconnecting with myself for real.
Go live life, be happy! Life isn't over simply because your spouse happens to change plans. Do what you always planned to do anyway. Never stop working for what you want, and for God's sake, keep pursuing your dreams!
Good luck to all of you, and God bless! I am out of here for the last time.
Gotta go see what's over that horizon...
Argue your limitations and sure enough, they are yours. - Richard Bach
I too have come to the same realization. Isn't it amazing the load that lifts off your shoulders when you finally accept and let go. Life truly is worth living. Annie