Is there any hope? Anyone had any success

[sadhearted]

Yeah the only time I see mine is when he gets the kids every other weekend. Maybe that's a blessing. I know when he is at the house it kills me to see him leave.

I know as bad as I feel about all this it kills me when I think about our kids. I mean he tries to rationalize it by saying the kids will be sad for a little bit but they'll be okay. Um no they won't. This will affect them the rest of their lives and I just hate that he can't see that or doesn't want to see that. Which is weird because he's been married before and has a son from that marriage so you'd think he would realize what he's doing.

I so understand the draining. My H has been gone almost 2 months and when it first happened I was exhausted all the time. Now it depends on my day. If it's a really bad day then ugh but if it's an ok day I don't feel so drained so that's nice.