Lunch went well. We talked about our kids, projects and an all you can eat crab feed coming up. But….at the end of our meal she asked “are things any better at home?” I told her we have known each other for 17 years and this is the first time we really sat down and talked. I am not sure how much I can trust her. She told me that she feel really bad that I feel I can’t talk to her just because my W is her cousin. She told me that my W has NEVER been happy. My W only really thinks about herself and nobody else. When they lived together they got into arguments all of the time because of my W selfishness. She said my W is only thinking about herself right now because if she was not she would be thinking about her mother (she’s 84). If anything were to happen between us it would literally kill her. I take care of a lot of things for her mom. She thinks I’m the greatest. The whole family appreciates what I do for their mom became they all live out of town so when anything goes wrong I am the one to take care of her. Well back to lunch. I told her (Cousin) that things are a little better. My W is not being so mean to me anymore. But I have been GAL. I need time for myself and I have been doing a lot of things. I told her that what we have talked about I want to stay between us. I don’t care is she tell anyone we went to lunch but our conversation is ours. I told her I really want and need someone I can trust because some of the things that have been going on are unacceptable but I have been keeping the lid on them because of things like what would happen the MIL. I told her a lot of guys would have been gone long ago but I am really trying to save our marriage She hugged me and said what we talk about is between us.
And that was it. I did NOT tell her about the OM. (Who she knows and does not like). I am glad I stopped the meds because they tended to make me more emotional and I probably would have said more than I wanted to. So what I have learned is my Wife may be bi polar. This means that the OM has sex with a mentally ill woman. (Sick puppy isn’t he) Sorry I had to get that in “forgive me lord”. How do you tell someone they need to be tested for depression without sounding sarcastic? I can’t say to her “you need to get your head examined” that won’t go over very well.
One last thing this if for THEO... hey guy we need to find someone smarter than me to figure out with all of our time zones a time that could be identified (example 5:oo pm calif. 8:00.pm Florida ect. So we can slam dunk a prayer session. Get this, we would ALL say a prayer at the exact same time we would pray for our spouses, for each other and for the OM or OW. We need to pray for them also. Wouldn’t that be grand?
I am having internet problems so I am not sure when I can get back to ya all. (I had to type this 3 times)
I am thinking about all of you Husband
Last edited by husband; 06/28/0711:41 PM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
