MC, it has been a while. seems like you are still smiling and waving so that's a good attitude. Just want to chime in with a little personal opinion. Not sure if this applies to CW. For me, I like to be treated special. I like to be "chased after" a little. If h calls me just to chit chat, "just thought about you so I call to say hi" will make my day. Of course, he needs to know to quickly get off if I am in a meeting, busy, or otherwise occupied. So I think if she likes to chat with you on the phone, do that more often, slowly. I think the key here is to slowly and in a non-threatening way, slowly build up your love deposit again. Try to build loving memories. At times, you will have to give her a break so she does not feel pushed. I think that is the difficult part. And don't expect anything in return. For me, when I was DB'ing (still trying to), I keep my focus on the 19 good years that we had before. I consider it is time for me to thank my h for all that he did for me during those 19 years. So I gave willingly and happily (well, half of the time anyway). It was easier for me to keep PMA this way. Yes, it is definitely cake eating for my h for a while. For my situation anyway, eventually he decided that this cannot go on because no one was happy in the true sense. My h chose to be with me (funny I still am not convinced of thsi but that's another story). For others, may be at that certain time, you will decide or make her decide. But probably now is NOT the time.
sorry there seems to be a lot of opinions and advice in one post. We just moved far away from OW, back to our home town so things are hectic, to say the least. Trying to get back online slowly. hope you keep this going. You are a great guy.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
