Sashaying thru Seperation V

[mcojh]

Thanks for the input Frank. The best I have been able to muster is 5 days....okay, 4 1/2. When I did that, two things happened. She started to pursue, calling more and stopping over. When I backed way off pre-seperation, she took that to mean that I didn't want to work on our R. As our M deteriorated, pre-A, one of the things that I slowly quit doing was treating her special. I used to always call her at least once a day and for some reason quit. I treated her like a roommate. I took her for granted. She has brought this up several times.

Today for instance, I called her out of the blue. She was actually happy to talk. Using the cheeseless tunnel theory, shouldn't I keep building the bond?

I think my problem yesterday was I set expectations way too high. I expect results to be deffinable and tangible. I think I was feeling really sorry for myself.