H41 me 41 S11 D7 1st bomb - 6/28/05, separated 90 days 2nd bomb - 10/2/06, day after our 18th anniversary (didn't leave) 12/5/06, told him to leave, says was staying until after xmas for kids 3rd bomb - 6/13/07-wants a D now, has "tried" for 2 yrs he says (BS I say) No OW
My H went to counseling twice I think it was. Then refused to go, says didn't like counselor. Found a new one and he refused. Wouldn't read any books I purchased. Wouldn't communicate about anything "relevant".
I say exactly what you say, I hate that my kids are going through this but it is out of my control. They don't even know yet.
I thought I had a success in Sept 05 when he returned, but it didn't work because he did nothing to contribute from that point forward. No matter how much I kissed his A...I figure I cannot be any better a person than when he returned,and if he won't take that he won't take anything. Says he feels nothing for me now. Is renting a house with a friend I call his "other wife". So instead of independence he is leaving me for him. Again, not taking care of himself. So sad. And I have tried my best to act as if, but everyday something new comes up to rattle my world. The rollercoaster you know.
So I have been very bitter, and was told by H that he could be that way too but we have to get along while he is still home he says. I try my best not to say anything, but sometimes it slips. Tells me stupid things like "look on the bright side"...
I could scream! Says I'll probably find someone before him. Yeah, like I am looking for that I said. NO way! I would never marry again, EVER after this fiasco.
Like you said, it is good to talk to others who can relate. We all hope the best for each other, but know the reality.
4th bomb -
Me 43 H 44 S-13 D-9 Separated 90 days 6/28/05 H Says he is done-10/2/06-day after 18th anniv Moved out 10/2/07-to father's house-day after 19th wedding anniv-GF now H Filed for D 7/08
