Not everyone here is dealing separation AND affairs. I can raise my hand and say yes, though he ended it 2 years ago when he told me (the same week).
I *think* I have forgiven him, but I think the way I handled things the past 2 years because of the affair led to the separation. I was just saying today on my thread or sad's that for 2 years, I could not look him in the eyes. When it first happened, I was surprised that he looked the same... like he should have grown horns or something. It was really weird. I would lose myself in what I would call black holes, which I have had to pull myself out of for good now that he's gone. I think all of that contributed to his leaving.
It is a shame we are all pretty much in the same boat, but it's also comforting in a way to be able to share and be understood here.
