Some new ideas I am kicking around. Not saying I am going to do them but just thinking about them.

#1 I have been meaning to get at a deep cleaning and organization of this house for some time now. I have mentioned this before and was advised to do it for me. For the most part that is exactly why I would do it. This will be a project that will actually take a few weeks with my schedule, (and if I manage to spend less time on here) But when I change things around I was going to do it "as if" I am to be living here by myself from now on. Sooner or later she will be by with to drop off our girl. She will notice the changes, and will ask, "What did you do with my ....fill in the blank......." And cheerfully (not smugly, but sincerely) as I can answer "Oh, I have just been stacking your stuff in the basement for now"

#2 Have someone call me when I know that she is walking in the door with our girl. I answer the phone and in a very pleasant way, "Oh hi, glad you called.... (pause) Ummmm, yeah that sounds great.... (pause) Hey, can I call you back in a little bit, I am in the middle of something...(pause) Ok I will call you back in a bit."


#3 Leave a lipstick covered cigarette butt on the first few steps of the sidewalk leading up the house. Where I know that it will be seen. If I am asked about it, have a sort of a "beats me" attitude.



Now I have asked myself the following on all three of these.

"Would it help or hurt my situation?" I still am undecided, although #3 might be pushing it too far.

"Is this being manipulative?" Hell yes it is.

"Are these actions truly letting go?" No....no they are not. But they all are trying something different. I would do all of the above to elicit a reaction from her. To make her think. To maybe jar her into realizing I am moving on.

I would certainly not do all of these on the same day. And I have been thinking of doing the first one for myself for some time now. I guess I probably would need to tread carefully on how I answer as to where I put "her" stuff.......Just thinking out loud here!