First time posting and really need the support of the community. W told me 6 weeks ago after a trip to Amsterdam that she was having an affair (and all the other usual things, brother, best friend etc.)
As per most other people, I tried the talking, loving approach, but that backfired. OP lives far enough away that she only sees him once every 3 months (intimate since Nov 06).
At the moment trying the cool approach without any pressure but still know she is talking/texting him.
We are still in the same house, share the same bed and are intimate on times, but no kisses, no cuddles. At times I feel like screaming and running for the hills, but then I think of the children and how I have taken the resposibility for childcare. I think all I need from the group at the moment is support and advice.
I have Michelle's book and am currently doing the 180, but I feel on times that I am trapped and just waiting for the 'I'm leaving and taking the children with me'.
I know I'm just rambling, but its difficult to attach all the hurt (didn't know, suspected), anger (at myself also) and despair. I know that patience is the key, but boy is that the hardest.
On a brighter note, I have lost weight so I feel healthier (when I'm not sinking down low).
