Ali, I really appreciate you sharing from the perspective of one "inside" so to speak. When W initially told me a few things I violated all principles of active listening. I tried to suggest things she could do and then I made the kingpin mistake of telling her I "understand" what she is dealing with.
No I don't. I can't begin to imagine.
Sven, you're right on as usual. I've been in contact with a group I met through other channels, (synchronicity?) years ago, Mercy Ministries. They have put me in touch with a number of counselors in my area as well as numerous books and articles on the web I can read.
Great material and I'm totally focused on learning and applying this material asap.
You're so right about the wall. My behavior of doubting/suspicion/jealousy really added to the self-esteem/damaged goods issue she was struggling with. I have to do my best to let her take that wall down. Every effort on my part to tear it down has only caused her to reinforce it and extend it so it now completely surrounds her.
I'm hanging, I can't imagine another option at this point.
