Coming out of our "entitlement" ruts?

[RedHeadWife]

I've been thinking about you this a.m. and my honest opinion, and I could get slammed too, is that, yes, H feels he has legitimate feelings, but bottom line is he needs to deal with them and move forward and it doesn't seem to me that he WANTS to do that. I hate to say it b/c I know I wouldn't want to hear it about my own sitch, but I agree that it almost seems as if he wants to push you to the point where you say enough is enough and that lets him "out" but you are the one that said the M was over, not him.

I still think it seems as if he is emotionally abusing you. Yes, that sounds extreme, but if you are honestly trying to work things out w/ him, supporting him and trying to be understanding and all you get are the harsh words, emails cussing you out, etc., I consider that abuse. I don't know how long I would allow that to continue.

I hate the thought of D when there are children involved, however, bottom line to me is that he needs to deal w/ his issues, move forward or move out. I honestly am sorry that I even have to have that opinion about you and your M!!