I'm just here to support you and say that I think you're doing great. It's funny how I feel like I'm going through very similar feelings as you, feeling more bold. I admit that I've reached somewhat of a "what about me?" stage and it may not be very helpful, but it's where I'm at. You always sound much more determined and selfless than me and I believe that has contributed to where you guys are at right now.
Best of luck!
PS I can TOTALLY empathize with the "can't even go for a gallon of milk" situation. It frustrates me so much sometimes!
