I was just about to say the same thing about mlc. Could you tell her we can't afford it and you will just have stay here until we get things going with the divorce and it would be in our best financial interest? You could set up some ground rules in writing about living in the same house and then you could detach and work on the divorce busting stuff. I will say I panic everytime mine moves out. I saw therapist yesterday and he again as always tells me he is will be back, he has to figure out that it is not you that is making him unhappy. It is himself that makes him so unhappy. My spouses mlc included during into a yoga nut where he felt meditiating hours a day ( after he came home from a corporate job is is good at) and practicing celibacy or what he called a spiritual marriage. We have role reversal in the intimacy dept, he doesn't want it , I like it! I spent one week of our anniversary with him on a fast....I could write for HBO for all I have been thru. AND I still blow in conversations with him at times. In fact he going to try that again to find happiness in that as he wants to come to the house and get his yoga mats and papers! Like I said, groundhog day!
Lay out the money to her and make her see that it might be in your best interest to not sell. I live in a very expensive county and houses just are in a slow down here and it might not be as fast as she thinks. AND if she thinks this is not going to have an impact on your child she is in denial. Going to counseling together for you child and how to handle that is one way some people get joint counseling. We were going for "divorce counseling according to my spouse. Counseling is counseling says my therapist with a smile. So sorry about your cat. You don't need that.
