Your not alone. I little backround. My H is a very high sex drive. I don't. I found him on a adultfriendfinder site, where he posted himself naked.. yes naked. Well I found out. I have two small children. I was horrified!! I knew he looked at porn on occasion.. and though I don't like it I just dealt with it. Probably because I knew I just didn't want it as much as him and I understood. Don't get me wrong, It pissed me off, but I figured, better that then to cheat on me. anyway, the adultfriendfinder thing threw me for a loop. I left for 2 days with me kids in tow. I didn't tell anyone but my best friend what was going on. She tried to get on the site to see the picture and he had already had it taken off. he said that I never acted like I desired him. Partly true and that I never wanted him. Well I tried to figure out if he had any contact with anyone and he didn't.
I told him that was sooo hurt that he could do something like that and that I didn't know if I could ever forget it. I have to tell you that it took awhile to get over it. It happend last July. But its clear like it happend yesterday. I have become a little less trusting, but I don't let it overwhelm me. I have tried to be more interested in sex but its hard with two little ones running around, but besides that, I did tell him that would be the last time I will ever go through something like that again.
I have been married for 16 years btw.
If he is going to these things and you are willing, something is up. Mine was driven by lack of... not an excuse.. just that he had a motive so to say.
You need to somehow get through to him. Don't have an A... bad idea.. if you love him then confront him about EVERYTHING!
Good luck honey...
Blessings~
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
