But I'm also thinking about the tubal pregnancy and then the 2nd pregnancy, which may have been an early miscarriage. The emotions from these pregnancies and the need to grieve for the tubal pregnancy may still be a lingering emotional problem for her. Some people don't just bounce back. She may be questioning if she will ever be able to have more children. And she may be depressed.
Sara,
You are right, we both never really grieved over these two miscarriages. She had a miscarriage before we had D3. We were trying so hard to conceive and she was getting depressed about this. She said that she would have to have one more miscarriage before the doctor could suggest anything for us. She mentioned possibly adopting if she could not have more kids. She loves kids so much. She use to teach before D3 was born. She would always say how she wants to go back to it, but we didn't want to put D3 into day care. The sad part is that her brothers just had babies within the last year and she sees them a lot because they are a very close family. Her other sister-in-law works with her and brings her baby to work every day. So, she has to always see what she wasn't able to get. I am sad too. I want more kids and I started to wonder if I am the problem or what is going on. Any ideas?
OneWish's Story
"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."
