Hi! I'm a newcomer and I'm in the midst of reading the book and going through the website and message boards. But I have a question about reading the book with your partner.
I really want us to both to read the book as I think it would help. And I still think it will help even if he doesn't, but if you're both reading the book, how does doing the 180 or going dark help? Do you just hope that with both of you reading and applying the practices of the book, you won't have to go dark? What if you have another one of those fights and both of you go dark? Well actually, my husband automatically goes dark anyways and wants to end the relationship. I'm always the one begging and crying and pleading. So, if I do a 180 and stop with the desperate behavior and he's not talking to me anyways and if after reading the book, he realizes that I'm doing a 180 so therefore continues to not talk me thinking I'm trying to manipulate him, wouldn't the situation just get worse?
Sorry for my rambling! I'm just trying to figure out if it really is best for both of us to read the book. I want our situation to get better, not worse. Please advise. I'm so confused!!!
