I know I might be jumping the gun here, but the wife and I are listing our house this week and when we get an offer signed and have a closing date set I know these questions will come. My wife has already been looking at condo's to buy. Once we move out of the house and go our seperate ways I know she will ask about going to divorce mediation like she mentioned before. I'm not sure if I should say that I don't want to go to mediation and think we should get our own attorneys. Or if I should file for sep. before she files for D? Or should I just try to drag my feet since I was always the one that made our appointments my wife might not take the initiative? Afterall, I have been taking care of her for the last 11yrs. I have been doing the bills, making appointments, pretty much running the household. My friends and family are like "why would she want to give that up? You are still taking care of everything". Up to this point she liked giving me the control now she apparently resents it. Dammed if u do dammed if u dont. I just want my wife back. Not this Alien! Why cant she see that I have changed and would have changed a long time ago if I thought she was unhappy. I was blind to her signs. Her actions contradicted her words. I'm a typical guy not a mind reader. She had said in the past "if we keep on fighting like this then I dont want to have children with u". Which hurt. But, then we did so I thought she was ok. Then last year she made a comment like "Do u ever think were just 2 different people with 2 different personalities and maybe not right for eachother? Maybe we shouldn't be with eachother for the rest of our lives?" And being my typical oblivious self I said "no I dont think that. I love u why would u say that. I married u for a reason." And she left it at that. I guess if I thought she was truly unhappy she would have brought it up again or wanted to go to couseling or something. I took the fact that we were married for granted.
Anyway, sorry for the tangent. This is just so dam hard.
And on top of everythign else. When I came home last night I found one of our 2 cats dead in the basement. I put her in the deep freezer so I can take her to the vet today to get examined to make sure it's nothing that could hurt our daughter or dogs.
