Fade To Black

[stillme]

Dave, honestly, when I was reading the book the other night (esp since it talks alot about the Tough Love in an A-situation), I was thinking of your sitch.

You are at THE place right now. You have built the platform -- Opening the Cage & giving W time to see This New You as consistent & truthful, etc [Step 1]; [Don't recall if you're a praying guy; but that's Step 2]; and, at Step 3 (when the R has eased, W is clearly conflicted/confused, and she may be wanting/needing the Crisis/Step 3 [confrontation] to make a choice (Your M or her A) instead of being torn, back & forth, from day to day & the respect you've lost (in her eyes) which enabled her to consider the A not only 'okay' but that you didn't deserve anything diff./better FROM her. (Dobson used the playground/school analogy: How many times have 2 best friends come out of a sitch where they started out as bully-er/bullied kid. When the kid being bullied stood up for himself (even if he got knocked down & bloodied for his efforts), the bully gained respect for him and then the bully became the other kids greatest defender! Interesting dynamics. Think about it (pray about it) & read the book. (Got mine on ebay for about $2. Not a bad investment, huh?)