TTHO I remember your previous posts and funnily enough was thinking about you yesterday and wondering how you were getting on. Sorry to hear not much better.
I remember you had some resentment about your H not doing much to help while you were working hard and in school.
Please don't escalate the flirting into an A if you really can't go on in the marriage leave with dignity.
You and your H both must be unhappy with your situation maybe he's more jealous than he shows and is frightened now that you're becoming more independent and he has ED problems that you'll leave him. Strong possibility if things continue the way they are. At least he was willing to take the viagra but if I remember right you were unhappy that he wanted more sex than you after he started taking it.
I know it is hurtful that a man would prefer porn to real life sex my H did the same thing when he had ED problems sometimes they are frightened of ML to a woman in case they can't finish properly or sometimes to make sure things are stil working. Doesn't seem to fit your H as he did ML while taking it.
Porn can be really addictive and while lots of men use it and still want to ML to their wife when it is a substitute for the real thing with a willing partner HUGE problem.
You really have to talk to your H and point out just how serious you are about making changes. Any chance you could go to counceling together or seperately?
Rebuilding intimacy first and then improving the SL would be the way I would go personally but only you can decide what you really want.
