That was very courageous of you to write that post.
I would like to encourage you to tell your husband just exactly how you feel. No threats, just a statement of fact. If you need to, just read him your post.
I also want to caution you on the affair. Don't do it. It really will screw with your head, and eat at you for a long time to come, even though you might feel justified. Please read my tagline and see how your entitlement is growing as a result of your situation. You need to be aware of what is happening to you so that you don't make a choice that you will regret.
If you don't think you can wait much longer, then you need to consider starting a divorce procedure. Again, I would recommend that you tell your husband what you are doing. No threats, just that you are reaching the limits of your patience, and you are still willing to work with him, but you can't wait forever.
Sorry for your pain.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
