I would play it by ear as far as talking about the book. It's a good book & all, but I would probably wait to talk about that kind of thing until you know that you really are (maybe) beginning to work on your M together.

It takes a lot of guts, and it truly sucks, but the one thing I had to finally do (which you are already doing) is no R talk. Keep going like you are going and wait for signals from her that she's ready to start working on your M with you.

Go to dinner, try to act 'as if' you are on a date w/ a new woman. What did you talk about w/ your 'friend' at lunch the other day? What would you talk about on a date w/ a totally new & different person that you had never been out w/ before?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10