beautiful children. You have every right to be proud of them as they reflect well on you, and they will be there for you forever.
Not to dampen good things, but I have to ask you a question or two. What happened last time your h did this, and how 'd you guys get back together? Why didn't it work that time? Why'd it happen in the first place? Why won't it again? How will you handle it if he does this OR SOMETHING ELSE WEIRD/DESTRUCTIVE to you or the kids again?
Notwithstanding his "issues" with his parents, (interesting that both R's are lousy and yet worth rebuilding--I mean if both his parents suck, why bother? Or is it more complicated than that?) Also, since there is a good chance neither R will repair fast if at all, what then? And what about the anger and the incredibly scary messages he left? The ow? What happened to her? How are the boys doing? What are they learning? Don't mistake my questions for a desire to punish your h, although I probably do feel like it. I understand the value of forgiveness quite well. But I fear for you and boundaries and feel that all this is much too fast for what has happened. The whole "2nd" time around with this crap, only this was during your 5TH pregnancy...wow...just having dinner alone with him and even thinking of taking him back already...wasn't the baby just born like 8 weeks ago? And he was where? And said WHAT on the voicemails afterwards? Just seems like Not much time to "recover" meaningfully.
I really am afraid for you. Mainly your heart, and your kids' hearts, and a little b/c I fear your h is far from being healthy enough to father these kids. Has he had a medical check up and or considered getting on some medication? No offense meant. But objectively, his behavior had some of the ugliest wording I've read on THIS bb, and in light of the newborn, the other kids, it was that much more outrageous and disturbing. I really want you to be happy and if he gets better, God bless him and you and your marriage...but if he doesn't, how will you fare?
I apologize for this message as it may hurt to read, but I say it with your interests in mind. God bless, j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
